I did offer to compromise and give SS14 $40 and cook him his favorite meal. That wasn't good enough apparently.Anonymous 4 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:27 pm There’s a huge difference between a 2 year olds birthday and a spoiled 14 year olds birthday. Just saying.
SD comes when she knows she is going to be getting gifts. Usually her birthday and Christmas. Or if I pay her to babysit.Anonymous 5 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:29 pmAnonymous 2 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:15 pmAnonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 12:57 pm
No its definitely him. He is supposed to get EOWE and one overnight. He is also supposed to get two weeks in the summer and just never exercised his custodial time like he should have.
When kids are teens and decide they don't want to go/are too busy to go, and we have the attitude displayed so often here that they are "old enough to decide," and if the courts support that which seems more and more common, yeah the system does set things up for this. Again, I'm not saying it's an excuse, and sounds like he played into it. I'm just saying the system lends itself to things turning out this way.
You're in a tough spot with your child. I'm not sure I'd stay but I understand why you do.
I've never known of a teen who refused to do visitation for anything except bad parenting. Don't blame the system for teens choosing to remove themselves from bad situations.
But you are okay with all of this otherwise you would give him an ultimatum. He knows he has you over a barrel financially and uses it to the fullest.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:34 pmHe is honestly really great with our DD and I do not want to be a single mom. For one I do not have the finances to do it by myself, and two he does help a lot when I am working and unable to pick up/take care of DD.Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:26 pm I would not be with a shitty person like that. He is financially irresponsible and an all round crappy father. He will treat your child like that in the future also
It is shitty. I would make plans with his kids on his behalf all the time. Tell them "we" missed them, you know aat least try. After telling him why I stayed with him at this time, he did make plans with SS14 and SD17 all on his own. And he has been keeping touch with them a lot more. But I can only say so much and do so much.
She doesn't make enough on her own and if I remember correctly she ran up the debt they have up herself.pinkbutterfly66 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:55 pm And why are you still married to him? He's a shitty father, that's a huge strike against him. He is irresponsible with money, that's another. Wouldn't you be better off without him?
This her post?Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:52 pmBut you are okay with all of this otherwise you would give him an ultimatum. He knows he has you over a barrel financially and uses it to the fullest.Anonymous 1 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:34 pmHe is honestly really great with our DD and I do not want to be a single mom. For one I do not have the finances to do it by myself, and two he does help a lot when I am working and unable to pick up/take care of DD.Anonymous 3 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 15, 2019 1:26 pm I would not be with a shitty person like that. He is financially irresponsible and an all round crappy father. He will treat your child like that in the future also
It is shitty. I would make plans with his kids on his behalf all the time. Tell them "we" missed them, you know aat least try. After telling him why I stayed with him at this time, he did make plans with SS14 and SD17 all on his own. And he has been keeping touch with them a lot more. But I can only say so much and do so much.
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